A journal for women to re-discover who they are
Time for me to fly, time for Finding your Inner Goddess – soar – I have had three events booked where my journal was exposed directly to the public– 2ND, 5th & 12th May
Event number 1:- 2nd May 2018 was a very important day for me as it was a day of celebration: a celebration of my book as well as celebrating my beautiful mother who passed away on the 2nd May 2017 from a relevantly short struggle with cancer. I dedicated my book to my mother for the values she had installed in me and my sisters; for recognising her struggles within her own life and me witnessing the good, the bad and the ugly of her life. No matter what situation she was handed she always carried herself with dignity and strength. One of the favourite things I regularly say to myself is: ‘let go, let God’ which I learned from my mom.
Getting back to the 2nd May, I have to admit I was calm and in control. Off I went to have my hair done, whilst my great supporter my husband Gary, went off to the art gallery to drop off my books, the banners, table cloth and the wines. We held the launch at The Art Link Gallery on 6th in Parkhurst, Johannesburg. I had sent out invites via social media, FB messenger and WhatsApp, as well as created an event on FB. To be honest with you this is the only way I know how to spread the word via social media. I had no idea how many people would be attending. The time had arrived for us to make our way to the event, but earlier, there had been a massive storm which of course caused major road chaos and fortunately we could rely on Waze to get us there via this turn and that turn. When we arrived at The Art Link Gallery on 6th there were only 3 people there: my daughter Claire with a beautiful bunch of flowers, Author and Gallery owner Shani Kor Krebs and my very vibrant friend Deborah Dreyer who had deliberately arrived early to see that the set up was just right and to bring some plates of eats with her – Deborah has become a valuable friend and ally and I’m truly blessed to have met her.
People slowly trickled in and it turned out to be small group of people – about 25 in total – just what I wanted and needed as it created an intimate atmosphere. I loved the people who came to be part of my very first book launch because they arrived with warmth and opened their hearts to the journal. Meeting new people and chatting to everyone about my passion about the empowerment of women was a highlight for me. Was I nervous to give a talk about the book – not at all – although I must admit I thought I would have preferred a Q&A but it turned out very successfully and I loved getting the message out there.
Event number 2: – 5th May at a Shopping Centre called Kyalami Corner in a store called U-Foria Lifestyle. Wasn’t sure what to expect, just that I know the owner of the store Lorna is a wonderful woman who has created a fantastic gifting store with a stunning on line store. I’m thrilled to have my book as part of the products available there. Louise, Lorna’s right hand woman, had put together a great display for potential shoppers and Inner Goddess buyers. It turned out to be a slow event, however when we are given opportunities such as this, we have to embrace the opportunity and maximise the value in each.
Event number3: – 12th May was hosted by Lorna Marshall and her incredible assistant Louise Potgiter at Norma Jeans Health and Beauty Spa in Benoni, Gauteng. Once again meeting stunning women where great connections are made.At each event I was privileged to meet phenomenal women who also want to get involved and empower other women. These truly amazing women know what needs to be done and simply get it.
I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t admit that some who said they would support me at both events never turned up and have left me disappointed. I recognise that this is something that I need to truly understand as not everyone will or can keep their word. Does their non-support define me? Not at all – it is what it is – I’m okay. The focus of these events is not about me, it’s about communicating the message of the importance of empowering women. If I touch one or two women at these events then I know I’m succeeding and that says “Finding your Inner Goddess” is working.
The core essence of “Finding Your Inner Goddess” is the reason for the journey so let’s get into that: I do have a wish list which I will share with you now- as we put it out, so we create!Wish list: – I KNOW IT. I FEEL IT. I SEE IT.
- For every woman to have their own “Finding your Inner Goddess” journal and for young women to see its value, and to stand up and empower themselves.
- For companies to say “Yes I want this for the women who work here, and for each female employee to have a copy of the journal to help them to empower themselves.”
- I want friends to buy a copy for their friends, and for home groups to be established.
- For women to hold workshops for women who will know they are safe to be empowered.
- For schools to allow me to talk to their girls on how to empower themselves.
As Edgar Cayce says “Dreams are today’s answers and tomorrows questions.” When we create opportunities for others to self-empower themselves and to grow, then the world is our oyster, we are the worlds pearl – be gentle with yourself.
When we have a working journal such as “Finding Your Inner Goddess” we start the process of getting into healthy habits which allows us fly.Looking back on past issues and hurts serves no place, you no longer need it , it has no priority in your life; rather look forward to the great opportunities life has to offer you. Put the NOW into action!I can tell you that through my 25 years of healing I don’t look at any of my journey with dismay or see myself as a victim: sure if I could re-write a few experiences, absolutely I would ,however I recognise that this would have caused me to travel a different journey.
Instead of thinking I would have OR I could have- rather embrace the different journeys for the blessings it has brought into your life. When I look at some of my own hurts, which in fact caused my own setback in personal growth, I realise how through thinking and mulling on them (because of my fear of rejection) I created a negative cycle in my own life. When we have a negative cycle in our space the ripple effects are very evident. Don’t let mind games impact on you causing cracks in relationships and giving the “gremlins” power.
I say this as I have travelled this very journey: I have travelled different mind game roads causing me a lot of heart ache. I let the gremlins overtake to such a point that I ended up ostracising my relationship with my sister-in-law because I felt she had taken my brother away from me; my relationship with my step-sister where I felt she had taken my older sister away from me. Two relationships that were impacted by my fear of rejection resulting in me rejecting them. While I didn’t realise this at the time, I later understood what I had done to myself and to them and that gave me the ability to say I’m sorry, forgive me. I carried this self-inflicted pain for 30 odd years and, my gosh, when I look at the length of time I self-sabotaged myself it is really quite scary, but thank goodness I recognised it and did the self-healing as well as asking for forgiveness.
The one thing I can honestly say is that doing the prep work on “Finding Your Inner Goddess” has allowed me to revisit some areas that I still needed to work on. I will always say this ‘working on yourself is a constant’ and we can’t become complacent with ourselves. Never think your work is completed as there will be triggers that will set something off within you and there will be new challenges to face- that’s okay – don’t beat yourself up as we are allowed those moments to re-address areas that need some working on. The real benefit is that you are working on yourself and that’s what counts.
Never underestimate your ability to empower yourself. When you see the light within grasp it and run with it for you are on your way – don’t be afraid, you have waited long enough for it. Here is one of my all-time favourite well known quotes by Erin Hanson “What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly” I say this to you: be that caterpillar that turns into a beautiful butterfly and fly, soar for you deserve it!